Intimacy Resources

This is a guide to terms you might hear in the polyamorous community. Some of the terms have definitions that are not clearly established or universally accepted, particularly with regards to terms used to describe various relationship styles. Where possible, I have tried to define such terms in ways that reflect all these different usages. Some of the terms in this glossary are used primarily in swinging; it should not be inferred from this that polyamory and swinging are the same thing. Rather, there is enough crossover between the poly and swinging community that knowledge of some swinging terms is often helpful.

When it comes to understanding gender, it's best to begin with deep breath, then with section one of this book by social justice advocate Sam Killermann, who uses clear language, helpful examples, and a bit of humor to help the medicine go down.

Shameless Parenting is the 21st-century book parents have been asking for! It highlights the trickiest parts of each age (birth to 18) that tend to trigger shame, and guides them on how-to provide emotionally for their children while helping them understand the shame that is emerging for them. Shame is what makes us reactive as parents. It is the hardest part of parenting. It is from our own places of shame that we over-react, repeating patterns from our parents that we might otherwise have resisted, and finding ourselves stuck, not knowing what to do.

This interview with Dr. Tina is one of many regular chats Phil facilitates with people deconstructing their faith and different spiritual thought leaders about the process of deconstructing one's faith, and focuses specifically on what shameless parenting looks like after being raised in Purity Culture.

Consent is part of your life. Every day you interact with dozens, if not hundreds of people and consent plays a role every time. A role you’re probably unaware of, at least until something goes wrong.This foundational book explores consent in a new way and will show you the fundamentals of Consent, how to use Consent in your relationships and sex life, and what to do when Consent goes wrong.This highly anticipated and comprehensive guide delves deep to explore the ins and outs of consent in our everyday lives. Regardless of whether you’re brand new, or skilled at living a consensual life, this how-to guide is a beacon to set your course for better consent.

Historically, Black women have contributed to the foundations of medical research, gynecology, sexuality education, and sexual and reproductive justice, and continue to do so today. However, the intersections of race- and gender-based oppression have repeatedly erased or undermined Black women’s prominence as thought leaders in the field of sex and sexuality. Despite participating in the development of the field since its inception, Black women’s contributions continue to be marginalized.

Sex Therapy with Erotically Marginalized Clients: Nine Principles of Clinical Support provides a clinical guide to relational sex therapy with individuals, partnerships, polyships, and alternative family structures where one or more of the clients are erotically marginalized. This term refers to people who are at risk of being pathologized and oppressed both outside and inside the clinical setting due to their gender identities, sexual orientations, or sexual practices.

This page provides definitions of Surrogate Partner Therapy (SPT) and outlines the main ethical and legal complexities, as well as standard-of-care questions with regard to psychologists, MFTs, counselors, social workers, psychiatrists, and other mental health professionals who may consider referring psychotherapy clients to Surrogate Partner Therapy. The page also provides a list of resources and research/academic papers on this topic for those who want to explore it further.

Drawing on comprehensive interviews with young men, psychologists, academics, and experts in the field, Boys & Sex dissects so-called locker room talk; how the word “hilarious” robs boys of empathy; pornography as the new sex education; boys’ understanding of hookup culture and consent; and their experience as both victims and perpetrators of sexual violence. By surfacing young men’s experience in all its complexity, Orenstein is able to unravel the hidden truths, hard lessons, and important realities of young male sexuality in today’s world. The result is a provocative and paradigm-shifting work that offers a much-needed vision of how boys can truly move forward as better men.

Sexual fantasies. Everyone has them, but no one knows what they mean. People are curious about and often confused by the things that arouse them, yet they are often too ashamed to reveal their most private fantasies to their partners or even their therapists. In this fascinating and provocative book, Dr. Michael J. Bader offers a groundbreaking new theory of sexual desire, one that will liberate men and 

In this episode, you will hear: - How Tina became interested in this line of work - Looking back at abstinence-only teachings - How couples struggle holding out on sex until after marriage - Understanding the historical context around the issue of sex and religion - Remaining in your religion whilst having a healthy sex life - Learning to appreciate your body - How to begin the process of not being ashamed of wanting to have sex.

Dr. Tina joins The Grace Course in an interview covering many topics related to sexuality and intimacy